What Is Making My Life So Hard?
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A 30-Minute Life Friction Edit
Maybe you don't need to get better at managing your life.
There are seasons when life is genuinely hard.
And then there are seasons when nothing is particularly wrong, but almost everything seems to require something from you.
Something to remember.
Something to maintain.
Something to arrange.
Something to recover from.
Someone to respond to.
Eventually, we start treating the weight of all of this as a personal problem.
I need to get more organized.
I need a better routine.
I need to be more disciplined.
But before you build another system for managing everything, there may be another question worth asking:
Why does your life require this much managing in the first place?
The Life Friction Edit
Your life has architecture.
Not just the rooms you live in.
Your routines have architecture. Your work has architecture. Your relationships have architecture. Your time has architecture.
There are expectations, arrangements, habits, responsibilities and invisible rules holding everything together.
Some support you.
Some once supported you.
And some create work simply because they've been there so long you've stopped noticing them.
Life friction is the recurring places where the way your life is arranged requires more from you than it gives back.
This isn't an exercise in fixing your entire life.
You're looking for three places where life could ask less of you.
INSIDE
Look at the life you're actually living.
The Life Friction Edit moves through five places where unnecessary effort tends to hide:
HOME
What does your home keep asking you to manage?
TIME
How much of your energy goes toward simply keeping life operational?
WORK
What are you doing because you've become good at doing it?
PEOPLE
What are you carrying because you've always carried it?
INVISIBLE RULES
What are you doing because somewhere along the way you decided that's what a good, responsible or successful person does?
You won't try to solve everything you notice.
You'll choose the three things that make you think:
My life would genuinely feel easier if this required less of me.
Those become your three friction points.
THE SHIFT
What if the goal isn't to handle this better?
What if the question is whether it should require this much handling at all?
Once you've identified your three friction points, you won't create another elaborate plan for managing them.
You'll choose one move.
REMOVE
Does this need to exist at all?
REDUCE
Could this happen less often, involve fewer steps, require a lower standard or take up less space?
REDESIGN
Could the arrangement change so it works better for the life you're actually living?
STOP CARRYING
Does this belong entirely—or partly—to someone else?
Every friction point gets one move.
Make the smallest change that allows you to experience the difference.
A 30-Minute Life Friction Edit
A guided digital experience for identifying three places where the way your life is arranged may be requiring more from you than it gives back.
Move through home, time, work, people and the invisible rules underneath them. Then decide what to remove, reduce, redesign or stop carrying.
Includes the 15-page Life Friction Edit and a one-page companion card for future reference.
Designed to be completed in approximately 30 minutes.
Immediate digital access after purchase.
FAQs
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A 15-page digital Life Friction Edit and a one-page companion card for future reference. You'll receive access to the PDF immediately after purchase.
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It's designed to take approximately 30 minutes. You can move through it in one sitting or take longer if something deserves more thought.
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No. You can read the Edit digitally and use a notebook or notes app for your responses. If you prefer writing directly on the pages, you can print it.
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Yes. Life changes, and so does the friction inside it. You can return to the Edit whenever life begins requiring more managing than you think it should.